Anger is a completely normal, usually healthy, human emotion. But when it gets out of control and turns destructive, it can lead to problems, problems at work, in your personal relationships, and in the overall quality of your life. And it can make you feel as though you're at the mercy of an unpredictable and powerful emotion.
Some of the most difficult challenges for a parent are their child's behavioral problems. Unlike an injury or disease, the "cure" is not always evident. Added is the fact that as a child grows, his or her personality is also developing and constantly changing. Using family systems therapy, I will work to develop an understanding of the causes and solutions to dealing with these behavior problems.
Coping is expending conscious effort to solve personal and interpersonal problems, and seeking to master, minimize or tolerate stress or conflict. Through individual, family, or couples therapy I will help to provide individuals with the necessary tools for managing life's conflicts.
Loss or Grief
Grief is a natural response to loss. It’s the emotional suffering you feel when something or someone you love is taken away. The more significant the loss, the more intense the grief will be. You may associate grief with the death of a loved one—which is often the cause of the most intense type of grief—but any loss can cause grief. Through therapy we will work to help manage the grief to complete all stages of the grieving process.
Parents want to ensure children’s health and safety, prepare children for life as productive adults, and transmit cultural values. Life's complications often make parenting a difficult task. Through treatment we will work through, understand, and then manage the family dynamics that complicate the parenting process.
All relationships require work--the work of communication, compromise, and compassion. When a relationship seems to require more work than the partners can offer on their own, but there is a desire to maintain the relationship, it is possible to improve and mend the breakdowns in communication, compromise, and compassion through couples therapy.
The tendency or compulsion to hurt yourself – by cutting or burning, for example – is usually a clear sign of intense inner turmoil, anxiety, and suppressed emotions. This behavior can be an element of depression, severe anxiety, and/or post-traumatic stress. Through therapy we will work to understand this behavior and develop a plan to manage the behavioral disorder guiding the self-harming behavior.
Suicidal ideation is a common medical term for thoughts about suicide, which may be as detailed as a formulated plan or as basic as just a few fleeting suicidal thoughts without the suicidal act itself. Many people faced with suicidal ideation do not commit suicide but may have suicidal behavior or make suicide attempts. The range of suicidal ideation varies immensely from fleeting to detailed planning. People who face issues with suicidal thoughts and behaviors may have symptoms of depression, hopelessness, severe anxiety, insomnia, or panic attacks. It is important to note that not all people who are diagnosed with a medical or mental health condition experience suicidal ideation, and that all suicidal ideation and behavior should be taken seriously.
Attention Deficit (ADHD)
ADHD, or attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder, makes it difficult to organize, stay focused, make realistic plans, or think before acting. Treatment options include behavioral therapy, neurofeedback, and psychosocial therapy. My focus is in the application of behavioral therapy.
Child & Adolescent Therapy
Children and adolescents are complex, and parents are not given an instruction manual with their infants. Parents worry constantly about how their children will grow, develop, and what kind of person they will become. Sometimes, parents are simply facing issues with their child that they do not know how to handle. Many children and adolescents stumble as they are growing and families find that they need the help of therapy. A wide range of problems can be addressed through therapy.
Conduct issues are becoming a global problem for parents, educators, and children. The issues that arise from conduct problems include anger, aggression, hostility, academic challenges, social problems, and other behavioral and emotional issues. Many of these issues can be treated with therapy.
A healthy sense of self can make a profound difference in how we feel and function. Self-esteem is our basic sense of worth or value. It is the degree to which we find we respect and like ourselves. Good self-esteem means self-respect, a sense of self-worth, a feeling of basic goodness about oneself. Low self-esteem can mean constant self-doubt and self-criticism, social anxiety and isolation, suppressed anger, loneliness, and even shame. Our self-esteem develops during childhood, and certain experiences may interfere with its development, for example: being subject to criticism or abuse from parents and caretakers; having early conflicts with peers; being stigmatized for unusual appearance or behaviors; one’s race, class, or social identity; missing out on experiences that would foster a sense of confidence and purpose; not receiving positive reinforcement for our accomplishments; or a learning disability or physical impairment.
Sexual Abuse Survivors
If you’ve gone through a traumatic experience, you may be struggling with upsetting emotions, frightening memories, or a sense of constant danger. Or you may feel numb, disconnected, and unable to trust other people. When bad things happen, it can take a while to get over the pain and feel safe again. But with the right treatment, self-help strategies, and support, you can speed your recovery. Whether the traumatic event happened years ago or yesterday, you can heal and move on.